25 February 2009

Staying Power

What's the longest you've ever done something? Grade school lasts 12 years. College can be 4 to 12 years, especially if you can't decide on a major. Marriages can last a few months or a lifetime. Jobs can be just jobs or they can be careers. What makes us do something for that long? What gives us that staying power?

I recently read an article from Cosmopolitan that said loving and being in love are two distinct things, especially for men. When a man is in love he doesn't see small imperfections in his new mate. Everything is new and exciting and holds the attention, but only for a short time. Loving, on the otherhand, means he sees his mate for who she really is and not who he wants her to be. If he has staying power, he will still be around when the new wears off.

I am currently at a crossroads. If you've been following my blogs, you know I've been a bit hostile of late. A lot of emotions are churning right now. I'm working through them. I've figured out that the Ex was not the man for me. And I'm not looking for Mr Right at the moment. Who knows? I may have met him already. Or maybe I'll meet him sometime soon. Either way, when the time is right, the right man will find me and see me for who I am.

I've heard it said by many, 'If you love what you do, you'll never work a day in your life.' I love writing. Those close to me know this. I also enjoy my day job. But I have to decide if it's just going to be the 'day job' or if it is the career I'm looking for. There is lots of opportunity with the job. And I am working for a friend. Is it possible to have two careers at the same time? I think I may have to find out for myself.

Always remember to check your mirror before you start down any path. Make sure you know your map, your directions, even if you're winging it you have to have an idea of where you're going. There are many paths in front of me and I've got my walking shoes on. Time for the next step.....

1 comment:

Karina Fabian said...

I never bought that saying. It's too pat. there will be days that, no matter how much you love what you do, you will have to WORK at it--whether it's making yourself get up at 0430 to have a "leadership session" with some guys who screwed up (which Rob had to do today) or sit at the computer and force yourself to get through the scene that is perfect in your mind but won't come out through the fingers (which I have to do today.)

I like this saying: there comes a point when you may have to choose to love. That applies in careers, too.